Monday, April 30, 2007

Becoming a Virgin

This is disturbing. By what kind of twisted thought process does a surgery make you a virgin again? I mean, it's bad enough that virginity is being used as a yardstick of a woman's worthiness. But apparently restoring the physical changes that result from sex also miraculously washes your mind clear of the experience?: "Now that the hymen is repaired, it's like never happened!" Like that one time your brother fell off the garage roof and broke his arm. He was in a cast for a while but now he's as good as new. Same exact thing!

I find this denial of women's experiences and the insistence on female Innocence and Purity infuriating. Honestly, what will it get you? Why are those qualities valuable? What is the damn point?

The endless ways that society finds to fear and to shame women's bodies makes me bone tired. We hate ourselves, dammit! We are too fat, our skin is not glowing, our feet are too big. We're too picky, we eat too much, we don't smile enough. We are moody and off-putting, we are too opinionated. YES! We. Get. It. We will never be good enough. Now piss off.

5 comments:

hammersox said...

Amen, sister! Exactly the type of rant that restores my faith in human nature. No one - and I mean no one - can shame jerk-off behavior better than you. I bow in awe. My devotion is undying.

Sassmaster said...

Awww. Thanks.

Lollie said...

Umm, so with this logic, if I got punched in the face, developed a bruise, and then the bruise faded, I never got punched in the face?

No. You are not a virgin again. Sorry. No.

Night Editor said...

Molly Ivins takes on authority and power: "What you need is sustained outrage...every single day, every single one of us needs to step outside and take some action. . . . Raise hell. Think of something to make the ridiculous look ridiculous." I'm working on a bumper sticker now, trying to match the sarcasm of Ivins and the beauty of O'Keefe (I don't care what they say; those beautiful petals aren't just flowers!) The Innocence Project my ass. . . .

cK said...

Huh? Maybe they meant they can make you a Virginian again. Probably not.

Speechless.
-cK